I have never thought about it in this context
that’s actually really, really creepy.
I once pointed this out to my mother and she just stared at me, in stunned silence for ages.
There will always be a girl who is less sober, less secure, with less friends walking in a darker part of town. I want her safe just as much as I want me safe.
The Fallen Princesses, Dina Goldstein
and in that moment, we were all Pocohantas
It is time for a fucking revolution.
If the fashion industry thrives on newness and novelty then they are failing themselves.
If you want a ‘new twist on a classic style’ I’ve got one for you.
Make a pencil skirt for someone who is 5ft 3.
Make a white shirt that will button over my breasts.
Make a shift dress that doesn’t get ‘nipped in at the waist’.
Make a pair of shoes that won’t aggravate my ankle injury.
Make a ‘nude-coloured’ dress that is dark brown.
Make your plus-sized jeans in actual denim, not some shitty stretch fabric dyed blue.
You want a fresh take on the classics?
Try making your clothes for someone who isn’t six foot tall and a size 6.
oh and also make fucking steel-toed boots under the size mens 8 1/2
Make some form-fitting shirts that are thick enough to stop our bras from showing through.
Make sensitive skin-friendly buttons and clasps so we don’t have worry about the metal making us break out in contact dermatitis (that’s a localized rash that can easily become an infection, for the uninformed).
Make a long dress that is easy to go to the bathroom in.
Make a pair of jeans that actually fit in the crotch area instead of putting us at risk of a yeast infection (No “V”).
Make more dress shoes that aren’t heels.
Put more pockets in women’s clothes.
CREATE A FUCKING UNIVERSAL SIZING SYSTEM THAT MAKES SENSE.
Amen to all.
I was never interested in what’s considered womens clothing (at least, not on me), and I have a huge amount of privilege in this particular area in that I am a big dude with big feet and I’m 5’7”. Number one thing I’m actively looking forward to about chest surgery? ALL OF MY SHIRTS FITTING.
Every single word of this.
This is honestly such real shit. Every word of it. Second to last frame hits a lot (I really hardly ever considered the possibility that there was such thing as not-spectatoring).
In one experiment, mothers were asked to guess the steepness of a carpeted slope that their 11-month olds would be able to crawl. Then the children actually crawled the slope, and the difference between actual and mother-predicted angles was noted.
The results showed that both boys and girls were able to crawl the same degree of incline. However, the predictions of the mothers were correct within one degree for the boys and underestimated their daughter’s ability by nine degrees.
What this shows is that the presumption that boys are more physical causes parents to encourage their boys more in physical activities while cautioning their girls. This further translates into providing more opportunities for boys to be physical and fewer for girls. The result?
Boys actually do develop stronger physical skills than girls. But not because of anything innate or biological, but rather because of the gender roles that the parents subconsciously projected onto their babies.
The experiment mentioned is available in full HERE.
For later reading
I’m an OBGYN and I practice at a jail, where I take care of incarcerated women.
People often ask me, how did you come to work with incarcerated women? I was in the middle of my first year residency, delivering a baby. Everything was very familiar about the delivery scene; the nervousness, wondering if everything was going to be okay, helping the woman to push. But the one thing that was different is that she was shackled to the bed; she was a prisoner. And that moment troubled me so deeply that I developed an interest in learning more about these women.
Women make up a much smaller proportion of the correctional population than men — about 9% of everyone who is incarcerated. And 62% of [those] women are mothers to children who are less than 18 years old. Because women comprise such a small proportion, their gender-specific needs have been neglected. That’s particularly salient when it comes to their healthcare.
In theory, women do have the choice to have an abortion if they learn they are pregnant when they are in prison. There are constitutional guarantees — the 8th and the 14th amendments — and a number of judicial precedents, so it’s very clear that incarcerated women should have access to abortion. However, in practice, the people who are making the decisions have incredible discretion and many women lack access to abortion if they choose it.
About 1400-2000 births occur every year to women who are behind bars, and what they get for prenatal care is highly variable. There are standards that require prisons to have prenatal care onsite, but on the ground, some women have to be transported offsite and some women don’t even get prenatal care.
In labor, they usually get transported to an outside hospital. They can’t have any family support members in the room, and only 15 states have laws restricting the shackling of women in labor and delivery. A woman in labor, shackled, is what inspired me to work with this population. It’s inhumane and unnecessary, and it poses a lot of medical risks to the mother and the fetus. It also interferes with our ability to do emergent interventions if necessary.
People think prisons and jails are far away and we forget about the people who get locked up inside; we think they have nothing to do with us. So I hope I’ve given you some things to consider about what it’s like to be a woman when you’re in the grip of the prison or jail system.
It saddens me to see girls proudly declaring they’re not like other girls – especially when it’s 41,000 girls saying it in a chorus, never recognizing the contradiction. It’s taking a form of contempt for women – even a hatred for women – and internalizing it by saying, Yes, those girls are awful, but I’m special, I’m not like that, instead of stepping back and saying, This is a lie.
The real meaning of “I’m not like the other girls” is, I think, “I’m not the media’s image of what girls should be.” Well, very, very few of us are. Pop culture wants to tell us that we’re all shallow, backstabbing, appearance-obsessed shopaholics without a thought in our heads beyond cute boys and cuter handbags. It’s a lie – a flat-out lie – and we need to recognize it and say so instead of accepting that judgment as true for other girls, but not for you.
1. Being beaten in your own home with a metal pipe by a complete stranger and that stranger subsequently admitting his guilt in court, is no guarantee of him receiving a custodial sentence. Justice, Irish style.
2. Emergency contraception is available without prescription – but you can expect a healthy side-serving of shame for free! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_hLTg-L—7o
3. You can be president but you can’t be Taoiseach. Your ovaries would spontaneously combust, what with all that power and all them fellas from Brussels making eyes at you.
4. And don’t even think about having a woman present the world’s longest running talk show. We all know that being charming, asking celebrities questions and talking into a camera fit snugly in the shoe box marked ‘FOR DE MENS’. As for the radio – you’d probably be scared the big, bad mic might bite you. Not to mention all the buttons. What are they for?
5. When it comes to the past, the Emerald Isle has a severe case of what therapists call ‘avoidance issues’. Enough avoidance issues to paper the downstairs bathroom with, if you’re DIY inclined. Listen a ghrá, it would be great if the Ireland of yore was the type of compassionate, open society where Magdalene Laundries / mother and child homes/ symphysiotomy could never have happened. It would also be something if the Ireland of today didn’t continue to export its women to the UK under a veil of silence. But it did and it does. Why is it still so hard to do the right thing, in so far as we can, for the women who deserve it most?
6. Sometimes, at mass, the priest might ask you to pray for people who are on trial for sexual assault. Also, in court, a convicted sex attacker might bring up how their golf club membership was revoked as evidence of how hard things have been for them. For a moment, you’ll think to yourself ‘I’m on Craggy Island’ but you aren’t and it isn’t funny. It’s terrifying.
7. When the Irish state wins an award for ‘Political Empowerment’, after having two female presidents serve 21 years between them, the government sends a man to collect said award. (If you think I’m joking, I’m not. The link to the story is below, eager beavers.)
8. I once stood in line waiting to meet Mary Robinson. In front of me was a middle-aged woman and her teenage daughter. The woman took her daughter’s face in her hands and said, her voice breaking, ‘voting for Mary Robinson was the first time I voted for anything in my life. It was the first time I felt like it mattered.’
I had to look away because what that mother was saying was so huge and so emotional I felt like I might burst. Being burst, with mascara dribbling down my chin was, I guessed, not the best look for shaking hands with one of the greatest women Ireland has ever produced. It’s worth remembering what Mary Robinson said about how she won the presidency, ‘I was elected by the women of Ireland, who instead of rocking the cradle, rocked the system.’
Rock on, women of Ireland. ROCK ON because nothing will change unless we make it and we have to make it. God, do we have to.
Fuck me this place is a shithole(via lancrebitch)
This is an enormous chain and I’m sorry, but I need to say this:
The laws in the Old Testament were set forth by god as the rules the Hebrews needed to follow in order to be righteous, to atone for the sin of Adam and Eve and to be able to get into Heaven. That is also why they were required to make sacrifices, because it was part of the appeasement for Original Sin.
According to Christian theology, when Jesus came from Heaven, it was for the express purpose of sacrificing himself on the cross so that our sins may be forgiven. His sacrifice was supposed to be the ultimate act that would free us from the former laws and regulations and allow us to enter Heaven by acting in his image. That is why he said “it is finished” when he died on the cross. That is why Christians don’t have to circumcise their sons (god’s covenant with Jacob), that is why they don’t have to perform animal sacrifice, or grow out their forelocks, or follow any of the other laws of Leviticus.
When you quote Leviticus as god’s law and say they are rules we must follow because they are what god or Jesus wants us to do, what you are really saying, as a Christian, is that Christ’s sacrifice on the cross was invalid. He died in vain because you believe we are still beholden to the old laws. That is what you, a self-professed good Christian, are saying to your god and his son, that their plan for your salvation wasn’t good enough for you.
So maybe actually read the thing before you start quoting it, because the implications of your actions go a lot deeper than you think.
This is a theological point that doesn’t come up often enough.